What are the 5 Worst Mistakes People make in their Divorce case? MISTAKE #5: "I Want My Day in Court"
I have excluded purposefully bad behavior such as physical abuse because it should be obvious that such actions are not only inappropriate but criminally dangerous.
MISTAKE #5: WANTING YOUR "DAY IN COURT"
Divorce is best viewed as the break-up of a business partnership. A long and drawn out divorce trial will ensure that you pay your attorneys significant funds, but will not ensure the best outcome. Is it likely that a Judge hearing only admissible evidence over the course of a few days can learn everything about your past, present and goals for future? Or is it more likely that you and your spouse, working together, can divide your partnership in a way that provides the best possible future for both of you, taking into account all of the information you both have about your lives and goals (most of which will never end up in front of a Judge)?
Unfortunately, many parties aren't focused on what their life could be after the divorce, but are still focused on their anger or sadness over the ending of their marriage. These parties can be heard saying things like "I just want my day in court" or "the Judge should hear my side of the story" or "the whole world should hear what he/she did." While the desire to be heard and express one's feelings about the end of a marriage is understandable, the court is exactly the wrong forum for this type of closure. Therapists are much cheaper (sometimes even covered by insurance) and much more likely to provide you with emotional insight.
At the end of the day, no matter how much of "your story" gets discussed in court, the court is still only going to decide which assets you get, and which assets your spouse gets. The Judge will not give you a trophy or any other sort of validation regarding who was "right" and who was "wrong." So, save your money, and rather then your "day in court", figure out what you want the rest of your days to be like and make sure that you and your attorney are working towards those goals.
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# by Accident and Injury Claims - March 5, 2012 at 7:31 AM
Family law solicitors should help you through any case so that you're not just focussed on "your day in court"